Welcome to Holistic Divorce Counseling
Holistic Psychotherapist Nicole S. Urdang, MS, NCC, DHM, LMHC.
The purpose of Holistic Divorce Counseling is to provide support, resources, and comfort for all life’s issues and transitions, not just the cosmic hazing of divorce.
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How many times a day do you feel frustrated? There’s no more toothpaste in the tube and no one replaced it. You forgot to fill the car with gas. The plumber cancels after you took the day off from work. You burn your favorite grilled cheese sandwich. You forgot to charge your phone. Road work […]
In a previous article on the holy grail of psychotherapy, I shared my belief that the ultimate goal of therapy is to feel safe inside yourself. On further reflection, I realize you can’t feel inner safety and emotional congruence if you consistently inundate yourself with a barrage of negative self-talk. The first step in […]
Even when something seems unrelenting, its intensity still varies. If you pay close attention to physical pain, for example, you’ll notice subtle shifts within the experience—moments when it eases, followed by moments when it intensifies. Nothing remains exactly the same. With experiences other than chronic pain, it’s often easier to recognize their impermanent nature, even […]
Lately, the field of psychology has focused increasingly on distress tolerance—what’s often called your “window of tolerance.” In my experience, most people with a smaller window developed it during a traumatic childhood, one in which they didn’t feel psychologically, emotionally, or physically safe. Trauma often originates within the family, or from any experience that overwhelms […]
As awareness of psychology has grown, so has the use of psychological terminology in everyday conversation. While this can help us better understand ourselves and one another, it can also lead to the overuse of diagnostic language. One phrase that seems to have entered the mainstream is walking on eggshells. Traditionally, the phrase describes a […]
There are numerous times in life when you will find yourself in transition. No longer who you were, and not yet whom you will become. Sometimes, that interim period is called the messy middle. It’s a time of flux and freedom, and it can feel unsettling—even nerve-racking. It helps to understand that these transitional times […]
When you’re sitting in a waiting room, in a difficult conversation, or feeling quietly overwhelmed, it helps to have something simple you can do—without drawing attention to yourself—that actually makes a difference. One practice I’ve found especially useful is Jin Shin Jyutsu finger holds. Jin Shin Jyutsu (JSJ) is an ancient Japanese healing art that […]
The short answer to this question is: It’s easy because, when feeling lower than a snake‘s wiggle, it’s hard to remember how much you love yourself. When you’re in touch with self-compassion and self-love you naturally want to take good care of yourself. That’s different for everyone, but it usually includes healthy food, a decent […]
I love the axiom that we give what we want to get. I think it concisely sums up long-standing patterns of behavior typically seen in adult children of parents who were incapable of providing a stable, loving, healthy family environment. When you didn’t get what you wish you had received from a parent, it’s […]
When it comes to getting excited about a new project, endeavor, or interest, many people have come to love the triumvirate of motivation: excitement, novelty, and challenge. Those may inspire and drive you for a while, but when the challenge is met, the excitement fades, or the novelty evaporates, what keeps that healthy habit? This […]
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Nicole Urdang
Nicole S. Urdang, M.S., NCC, DHM is a Holistic Psychotherapist in Buffalo, NY. She holds a New York state license in mental health counseling and a doctorate in homeopathic medicine from the British Institute of Homeopathy.
As an Associate Fellow at the Albert Ellis Institute Nicole trained with the founder of Rational-Emotive Behavior Therapy for over 25 years.
Nicole has studied psychology, philosophy, yoga, nutrition, clinical hypnosis, journaling, dream analysis, Cognitive-Behavior Therapy, Gestalt Therapy, Sexuality and Gender Issues at the Kinsey Institute, Inner Child work, Internal Family Systems, Bach Flower Essences, herbs, Tapping (EFT), homeopathy, meditation, Sanskrit mantras, and yogic breath work all of which inform her holistic approach to mind-body issues.
In the early 1980s she created and hosted one of the country’s first call-in radio counseling shows on WKBW.
If you live outside the greater Buffalo-Niagara area and would like to speak with Nicole, you can schedule a phone session. Contact information is available on goodtherapy.org or just call 716-882-0848.