Welcome to Holistic Divorce Counseling
Holistic Psychotherapist Nicole S. Urdang, MS, NCC, DHM, LMHC.
The purpose of Holistic Divorce Counseling is to provide support, resources, and comfort for all life’s issues and transitions, not just the cosmic hazing of divorce.
Why hold a grudge? Holding a grudge typically involves repeatedly reminding yourself how somebody wronged you and how they deserve your continued anger, disappointment, resentment, and retribution. It’s a unique self-inflicted pain requiring incessant internal reminders of being hurt by someone’s indifference, willful behavior, or obliviousness. Who would want to reignite the emotional distress of […]
This is the easiest self-help thing you can do, even though, at first, it looks as if you’re doing it for someone else. All you have to do is say something nice. There’s only one catch: You have to mean it. Surely, in almost all your daily wanderings you can find something nice to say […]
What are your emotions really telling you? Clearly when you feel happy, elated or joyful your emotions are saying: “More please!” It doesn’t take a psychological sleuth to know what to do when you feel good; however, it does take a bit of digging to figure out what’s underneath the darker and more complex emotions. […]
Lately almost everyone I see in my practice complains of some insomnia. Here’s a list of everything I could conjure up to help you if you have trouble getting to sleep or staying asleep. PLEASE CONSULT WITH YOUR MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL BEFORE USING THESE OR ANY OTHER REMEDIES, ESPECIALLY IF YOU ARE ON PRESCRIPTION MEDICATION, AS […]
What is heroism? Courage, bravery and perseverance in the face of adversity. What personhas not had all three? This is not another chapter in the pantheon of modern narcissism, but a truism. It’s not easy being human. From the littlest discomfort to the hugest existential despair, health challenge or relationship dissolution, it takes guts to […]
It’s easy to think trauma is relatively rare; however, it’s far more commonplace than we like to believe. In fact, almost everybody has experienced some trauma in life. It may have been from a coach, bully, parent, sibling, war, assault, or accident, but the ubiquity of trauma is becoming more apparent as researchers and therapists plumb […]
Sometimes, we need a little help to unleash all the grief we can accrue on this earth. Here’s a YouTube video of American Tune sung by Paul Simon to help you on your way. Remember: You can’t heal what you don’t feel.
What is fluid? Something that flows easily without much obstruction. Just as we want fluidity from the water in our faucets we also want it in our relationships, especially intimate ones. Intimacy implies a closeness beyond familiarity and generic caring. It’s when you know someone really well, you have shared a multitude of different experiences […]
Use the following quiz to determine if you are living a self examined life. Give yourself a point for any one of the following you do most days. Laugh, smile, and interact with others. Give of yourself or your resources in some way that feels meaningful. Meditate. Openly talk with friends, family, a therapist, or […]
Yesterday, I had an experience I’ve had many times in the course of my career. Someone said, “I wish you could be with me in situations when I don’t know what to say, get completely flustered, and end up down the rabbit hole of a conversation that is either difficult, contentious, or unproductive.” Spurred on […]
Nicole S. Urdang, M.S., NCC, DHM is a Holistic Psychotherapist in Buffalo, NY. She holds a New York state license in mental health counseling and a doctorate in homeopathic medicine from the British Institute of Homeopathy.
As an Associate Fellow at the Albert Ellis Institute Nicole trained with the founder of Rational-Emotive Behavior Therapy for over 25 years.
Nicole has studied psychology, philosophy, yoga, nutrition, clinical hypnosis, journaling, dream analysis, Cognitive-Behavior Therapy, Gestalt Therapy, Sexuality and Gender Issues at the Kinsey Institute, Inner Child work, Internal Family Systems, Bach Flower Essences, herbs, Tapping (EFT), homeopathy, meditation, Sanskrit mantras, and yogic breath work all of which inform her holistic approach to mind-body issues.
In the early 1980s she created and hosted one of the country’s first call-in radio counseling shows on WKBW.
If you live outside the greater Buffalo-Niagara area and would like to speak with Nicole, you can schedule a phone session. Contact information is available on goodtherapy.org or just call 716-882-0848.