Music playlist to help you through a Divorce or Break-Up

By Nicole Urdang | November 23, 2016
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Here’s a list of songs designed to make you feel better during a divorce, break up, or anytime you need a lift. Some are funny, some cathartic, all a balm to soothe your soul.   Juice Newton LOVE’S BEEN A LITTLE BIT HARD ON ME Sterling Harrison DON’T YOU MESS WITH MY MONEY Chantal Kreviazuk […]

Missing what you don’t really want

By Nicole Urdang | August 11, 2016
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How is it possible to miss something you no longer wanted? Nyozi Adiche “Americanah” We are hungry for what we have grown out of. Mirabai Starr “Caravan of No Despair” It seems so counter-intuitive to miss something you no longer want, yet it makes perfect sense once you consider the complicated nature of relationships and […]

Adult Children’s Revelations After Divorce

By Nicole Urdang | September 23, 2015
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Oh! What a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive. Sir Walter Scott As time moves on from your divorce you can be sure of one thing: There will always be new revelations from your children. At times, they will rock your world and make you question your own memories. Whatever they […]

Getting Over the Shame of Divorce

By Nicole Urdang | May 4, 2015
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“We cannot grow when we are in shame, and we can’t use shame to change ourselves or others.” ― Brené Brown: I Thought It Was Just Me: Women Reclaiming Power and Courage in a Culture of Shame While it’s easy to feel ashamed of many things in life, the process of divorce and its aftermath […]

How to find love after a divorce with bonus Sanskrit love mantra

By Nicole Urdang | February 21, 2013
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Sometimes, the thought of being in love may seem as appealing as a root canal, but the desire to connect deeply with another soul can be quite powerful. Seeking love and connection may have been a nascent or cryogenically preserved wish, but when catalyzed by a potential partner, it can astound you with its ferocity. […]

Holidays II: Embracing Reality After A Divorce or Death

By Nicole Urdang | December 16, 2012
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Nothing is wrong—whatever is happening is just “real life.” Tara Brach The holidays have an uncanny way of triggering grief. Once accessed, this deep sadness can have a boomerang effect as it sweeps up all past losses bringing them right to your emotional doorstep. Naturally, this dustpan of misery can feel as if it coats […]