Welcome to Holistic Divorce Counseling
Holistic Psychotherapist Nicole S. Urdang, MS, NCC, DHM, LMHC.
The purpose of Holistic Divorce Counseling is to provide support, resources, and comfort for all life’s issues and transitions, not just the cosmic hazing of divorce.
Whether we’re in the midst of a pandemic, political upheaval or merely the ups and downs of a normal day, there is something incredibly freeing about saying: I was wrong. I was mistaken. I didn’t understand. Every day, even if you’re not consciously paying attention, you are learning. Growing, learning, and being mistaken about things. […]
When the unconscious knows you are ready it will speak to you. Rick Hanson You are conscious every moment of your waking life, unless you’re in a coma or anesthetized. Because you’re aware of your analytical mind, it’s easy to think any psychological changes have to be achieved by conscious work. Thankfully, that is not […]
There’s no question that counting your blessings can make you feel better, but if it becomes something you do on auto pilot and you’re not fully conscious of what you’re saying, it ceases to be meaningful. If that happens to you try this: When you’re focusing on what’s going wrong in your life, what you […]
One quick way to burn yourself out is to be on red alert 24/7. A constant litany of negative thoughts, while it can seem protective, is a sure fire path to emotional and physical depletion. If you grew up in a toxic or traumatic environment it’s easy to have unconsciously developed protective parts that seek […]
This compilation of songs, all of which can be found on YouTube, will bathe your soul in bliss. Some are in English and some in Sanskrit, the ancient holy language. All are designed to soothe your spirit during this strange and challenging time. Snatam Kaur Long Time Sun https://youtu.be/i5tJvY_P9vg Harnam I’ll Be Fine https://youtu.be/GlLD4_vn-1o Snatam […]
Here are two practices, one from Buddhist tradition and one from yoga, to help you feel a sense of agency during this unusual time and to send out loving kindness to everyone who might be suffering. Tonglen, as described by the Buddhist teacher Pema Chodron, encourages you to: Feel your discomfort, anxiety or pain, emotionally […]
Clearly, this is an extremely stressful time. It’s also an opportunity to trust yourself and use all the tools you have practiced to cope in the past. I have compiled a short list of things you can do to buoy your spirits, keep yourself physically healthy, and help others. If you have Bach’s Rescue Remedy […]
One of the things I find really amazing is the openness of people in their 20s and 30s to do deep work in therapy. For many years most people who came to work with their trauma or family of origin issues were middle-aged or older. It’s heartening to see how incredibly astute, brave and receptive […]
If you didn’t have a predictable, loving, nurturing, protective adult presence in your life as an infant or child you are likely to search for it the rest of your days. Luckily, the answer lies within. The more you rely on yourself to give you what you didn’t get the more you can reliably get […]
Detaching from what causes you pain and attaching to what brings you joy sounds incredibly straightforward and almost absurd to write about, yet for most people it’s amazingly difficult￼. First of all, one must do a fairly fearless inventory to discern what actually brings you joy in the first place and what causes pain. This […]
Nicole S. Urdang, M.S., NCC, DHM is a Holistic Psychotherapist in Buffalo, NY. She holds a New York state license in mental health counseling and a doctorate in homeopathic medicine from the British Institute of Homeopathy.
As an Associate Fellow at the Albert Ellis Institute Nicole trained with the founder of Rational-Emotive Behavior Therapy for over 25 years.
Nicole has studied psychology, philosophy, yoga, nutrition, clinical hypnosis, journaling, dream analysis, Cognitive-Behavior Therapy, Gestalt Therapy, Sexuality and Gender Issues at the Kinsey Institute, Inner Child work, Internal Family Systems, Bach Flower Essences, herbs, Tapping (EFT), homeopathy, meditation, Sanskrit mantras, and yogic breath work all of which inform her holistic approach to mind-body issues.
In the early 1980s she created and hosted one of the country’s first call-in radio counseling shows on WKBW.
If you live outside the greater Buffalo-Niagara area and would like to speak with Nicole, you can schedule a phone session. Contact information is available on goodtherapy.org or just call 716-882-0848.