Oh! What a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive. Sir Walter Scott As time moves on from your divorce you can be sure of one thing: There will always be new revelations from your children. At times, they will rock your world and make you question your own memories. Whatever they […]
I want to talk to you about the gift of disillusion and its ultimate reward: accepting life on life’s terms. Clinging to illusions starts early. We all want to believe in Santa Claus, the Tooth Fairy, and magic. They soothe and bolster our spirits. Of course, we are loath to relinquish them. Even as adults, […]
There is little compelling literature on the effects of divorce on adult children, though you can be sure there are consequences. Judith Wallerstein’s bleak statistics notwithstanding, no one really knows what’s better for children: staying in a disturbed household with unhappy parents or dealing with the chaos of divorce. Naturally, things are different if the […]
No matter how old you are there is still a little child inside you. He or she craves truth and fairness. Who hasn’t heard the lament “That’s not fair!” yelled in a playground or schoolroom? Craving truth seems to be innate. That’s why betrayal, whose coin of the realm is lying, goes against our grain […]
The greater the love and loyalty, the involvement and commitment, the greater the betrayal. James Hillman Oh what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive. Sir Walter Scott Secrets, lies, cheating. They’re all forms of betrayal, and they all destroy trust. As a therapist I have seen my share of emotional […]