Life enhancers

Three skills to support you through life.

By Nicole Urdang | February 15, 2024
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Cultivating curiosity, creativity, and perseverance will see you through almost any challenging situation and enhance your life. Take a few minutes now to answer the following questions. When was the last time you felt curious about something?  When was the last time you acted or thought creatively? When was the last time you figured out […]

Discover hidden gold in your yoga practice.

By Nicole Urdang | January 27, 2024
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Yoga has profound effects of body, mind, and spirit. It moves us, literally and physically, beyond the confines of our self-imposed limitations. It turns and twists us to see different inner and outer landscapes. With every breath, yoga grounds us in this quirky, inscrutable life experience. The lower half of our body connects with earth or […]

Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional.

By Nicole Urdang | July 27, 2023
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A recurring theme in therapy is the Buddha’s second arrow. It refers to the fact that whatever is difficult or painful in life is exacerbated by the negative self-judgment we inflict on it. This is a crucial concept for separating pain from suffering. As the Buddha supposedly said: Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional. There […]

Surprised by joy

By Nicole Urdang | July 14, 2023
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How many times in life have you been surprised by joy? What about the time you made a new friend? Had your first ice cream cone?  Saw a sunset like no other? Unexpectedly fell in love? Surely, there have been thousands of big and little moments when you were awestruck, shocked with delight. One would […]

Detach from what causes you pain and attach to what brings you joy.

By Nicole Urdang | October 4, 2022
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Detaching from what causes you pain and attaching to what brings you joy sounds incredibly straightforward and almost absurd to write about, yet for most people it can be amazingly difficult. First of all, one must do a fairly fearless inventory to discern what actually brings you joy in the first place and what engenders […]

How To Improve Your Relationships By Asking Good Questions.

By Nicole Urdang | July 27, 2022
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If you want to improve your relationships learn to ask good questions. Frankly, if you want to improve your life learn to ask good questions. While research shows that we get a hit of dopamine every time we talk about ourselves, there are hidden benefits to learning more about others. Not the least of which […]