Welcome to Holistic Divorce Counseling
Holistic Psychotherapist Nicole S. Urdang, MS, NCC, DHM, LMHC.
The purpose of Holistic Divorce Counseling is to provide support, resources, and comfort for all life’s issues and transitions, not just the cosmic hazing of divorce.
The only constant is change. Heraclitus It’s easy to think of certain life events, like marriage, divorce, or an empty nest, as big transitions. Yet, not all transitions are so obvious. Daily life is a stream of them, whether shifting from sleep to wakefulness, hunger to satiety, calm to annoyed, concentrating to distracted, or healthy […]
One is one’s own refuge. Who else could be the refuge? The Buddha For years I have wanted to tape a recording of all the things I wish I could say to each and every one of you. Every compassionate, kind, gentle, patient, accepting, affirming, understanding, appreciative, and supportive thought to make you feel as […]
Here’s a list of songs designed to make you feel better during a divorce, break up, or anytime you need a lift. New songs are regularly added to the Amazon playlist. Some are funny, some cathartic, and all are a balm to soothe your soul. I made an Amazon Music playlist, but it doesn’t have […]
Anxiety, anger, or any other negative emotional reaction is often triggered by underestimating your ability to handle life’s challenges and overestimating the severity of a possible negative outcome. In the midst of a crisis or life transition it is all too easy to be thrown off course. Whatever sense of emotional terra firma you felt […]
“What’s past is prologue.” William Shakespeare, The Tempest The thing about the past is that it’s not the past. Irish saying People are often deterred from starting therapy because they think they will have to dredge up unpleasant things from their childhood, which can feel daunting. Yet, childhood experiences will surface, as they typically influence […]
How is it possible to miss something you no longer wanted? Nyozi Adiche “Americanah” We are hungry for what we have grown out of. Mirabai Starr “Caravan of No Despair” It seems so counter-intuitive to miss something you no longer want, yet it makes perfect sense once you consider the complicated nature of relationships and […]
“I don’t like to use the word acceptance, but I think we can be comfortable with what we cannot solve.” Pauline Boss, Ph.D. Psychologist and family therapist Pauline Boss talks about “ambiguous loss” and the futility of thinking about closure with deep grief. There is no closure, she argues, when you can’t really put a […]
People are like plants: they grow toward the light. I chose science because science gave me what I needed—a home as defined in the most literal sense: a safe place to be. Hope Jahren If you had a childhood full of drama, yelling, violence, addiction, over-controlling or neglectful parents, it can be especially difficult […]
The following is a list of symptoms associated with major depression: A persistent feeling of sadness Loss of interest Changes in appetite Decreased energy level Thoughts of suicide Anxiety Anger Apathy General discontent Guilt Hopelessness Inability to feel pleasure Mood swings Sadness Early awakening Excess sleepiness Insomnia Restless sleep Excessive hunger Fatigue Loss of appetite […]
Perfectionism is the voice of the oppressor. Anne Lamott Ring the bells that still can ring Forget your perfect offering. There is a crack in everything, That’s how the light gets in. Leonard Cohen (Inspired by Emerson’s quote: There is a crack in everything God has made.) The full title for this article is “Dare […]
Nicole S. Urdang, M.S., NCC, DHM is a Holistic Psychotherapist in Buffalo, NY. She holds a New York state license in mental health counseling and a doctorate in homeopathic medicine from the British Institute of Homeopathy.
As an Associate Fellow at the Albert Ellis Institute Nicole trained with the founder of Rational-Emotive Behavior Therapy for over 25 years.
Nicole has studied psychology, philosophy, yoga, nutrition, clinical hypnosis, journaling, dream analysis, Cognitive-Behavior Therapy, Gestalt Therapy, Sexuality and Gender Issues at the Kinsey Institute, Inner Child work, Internal Family Systems, Bach Flower Essences, herbs, Tapping (EFT), homeopathy, meditation, Sanskrit mantras, and yogic breath work all of which inform her holistic approach to mind-body issues.
In the early 1980s she created and hosted one of the country’s first call-in radio counseling shows on WKBW.
If you live outside the greater Buffalo-Niagara area and would like to speak with Nicole, you can schedule a phone session. Contact information is available on goodtherapy.org or just call 716-882-0848.