Welcome to Holistic Divorce Counseling
Holistic Psychotherapist Nicole S. Urdang, MS, NCC, DHM, LMHC.
The purpose of Holistic Divorce Counseling is to provide support, resources, and comfort for all life’s issues and transitions, not just the cosmic hazing of divorce.
We are a society of addicts. Alcohol, drugs, gambling, shopping, TV, food, iPhones, music, pornography, exercise…you name it and we can find a way to abuse it. Why the rampant epidemic of OCD (obsessive-compulsive disorder)? To dull our pain. All addictions achieve the same goal: they push those things we find threatening out of our […]
I created a simple tool that helps people avoid conflict and enjoy the more harmonious relationships. I call it “Scripting” because you actually ask the other person to say exactly what you want to hear in a given situation. Obviously, you wouldn’t want to employ this technique all the time, but it is an excellent […]
Grief is the most protean of emotions, constantly shifting from one feeling to another. One minute you’re depressed, the next you’re angry. Later you find yourself bargaining with life, and then you’re in the ozone of denial. Acceptance comes, but only after you’ve faced your demons. The thing to remember about grief is […]
We all know how important it is to eat high quality, preferably local/organic food, but it is equally helpful to eat frequently. By eating at regularly spaced intervals (ideally every 3-4 hours) you maintain a fairly even blood sugar level, which helps balance your mood. If you let yourself skip meals your blood sugar level […]
Guilt is actually worse than useless, as it fosters bad feelings towards yourself and others. It’s easy to think that guilt motivates you to do better in the future, but that’s not actually what happens. Guilt leads to resentment of the person you might have wronged. Here’s how it works: if they didn’t exist you […]
I cannot overstate how beneficial it is to get out of the house every day and spend some time in nature. Ditto for exercise. It doesn’t need to be a marathon, a simple walk or some yoga will change your brain chemistry and improve your mood. Here’s one of my favorite meditations to […]
The following is a list of various herbal and homeopathic remedies for the major side-effects of separation and divorce: depression, anxiety, insomnia, stress, and repetitive thoughts. Naturally, it is also useful for the same emotions, whatever their source. PLEASE CONSULT WITH YOUR MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL BEFORE USING THESE OR ANY OTHER REMEDIES, ESPECIALLY IF YOU ARE […]
At some point during this cosmic hazing you may want to seek some professional help. It’s crucial that you are discerning and informed, even though you may feel emotionally depleted and raw. Let’s first see what kinds of help are available: Psychiatrists are MDs who typically suggest and prescribe medication, that’s psychotropic, […]
NOTE: While the date of this post is 2008, it is regularly updated. Newer quotes are added to the bottom of the page. I’m a quote-a-holic. I believe in the power of words to reshape thoughts, thereby changing our feelings and perceptions. Here are some of my favorites. What the caterpillar calls the end of […]
When mired in unhappiness and disappointment it’s hard to imagine a future replete with joy; but, one does exist. You can jump-start its arrival by creating a vision board. Get a big piece of sturdy cardboard or poster board. Something that can be leaned against a wall and remain stable. Gather all the […]
Nicole S. Urdang, M.S., NCC, DHM is a Holistic Psychotherapist in Buffalo, NY. She holds a New York state license in mental health counseling and a doctorate in homeopathic medicine from the British Institute of Homeopathy.
As an Associate Fellow at the Albert Ellis Institute Nicole trained with the founder of Rational-Emotive Behavior Therapy for over 25 years.
Nicole has studied psychology, philosophy, yoga, nutrition, clinical hypnosis, journaling, dream analysis, Cognitive-Behavior Therapy, Gestalt Therapy, Sexuality and Gender Issues at the Kinsey Institute, Inner Child work, Internal Family Systems, Bach Flower Essences, herbs, Tapping (EFT), homeopathy, meditation, Sanskrit mantras, and yogic breath work all of which inform her holistic approach to mind-body issues.
In the early 1980s she created and hosted one of the country’s first call-in radio counseling shows on WKBW.
If you live outside the greater Buffalo-Niagara area and would like to speak with Nicole, you can schedule a phone session. Contact information is available on goodtherapy.org or just call 716-882-0848.