Welcome to Holistic Divorce Counseling
Holistic Psychotherapist Nicole S. Urdang, MS, NCC, DHM, LMHC.
The purpose of Holistic Divorce Counseling is to provide support, resources, and comfort for all life’s issues and transitions, not just the cosmic hazing of divorce.
Unless you have a lobotomy, you will have to contend with a boatload of memories. Some good, some bad, most mundane or neutral. The last group won’t haunt you, but the happy ones may. Surprisingly, negative recollections can aid your healing journey by reminding you all was not bliss. Positive memories allow you to see […]
When you have come to the edge of all light that you know and are about to drop off into the darkness of the unknown, faith is knowing one of two things will happen: There will be something solid to stand on or you will be taught to fly. Patrick Overton Faith […]
Have you ever noticed how threatened you can feel when someone doesn’t agree with you? Over-identification with your thoughts is the culprit. Believing you are your opinions when, in reality, you are far more. Why is it so crucial for our intimates agree with us? Is it all ego? Must we prove we’re right to […]
When we speak of acceptance we really mean accepting things we don’t like, understand, or can’t change. It’s fairly easy to accept the things we enjoy. The challenge is taking life on life’s terms, and cozying up to the notion that we can’t control many aspects of our health, job, or relationships. Intellectually, we […]
“The growth of grace is like the polishing of metals. There is first an opaque surface; by and by you see a spark darting out, then a strong light; ’till at length it sends back a perfect image of the sun that shines upon it.” Edward Payson (1783-1827) “We’re all stumbling towards the light with […]
You can’t avoid triggers. They’re everywhere. The longer you were coupled, the more you have. Some days, it might seem as if everything is a trigger. If you were together for decades, that’s likely. You literally shared millions of moments. Deepak Chopra used to say that couples shared sub-atomic particles by being so physically […]
The Buddha taught there is no one more deserving of compassion than you. More recently, acupuncturist Barbara Sullivan said, “Self-pity is like self-comfort.” Not only can it be OK, it may be beneficial. Self-pity has gotten a bad rap. There are times when feeling sorry for yourself opens the floodgates and lets all your sadness […]
After the slaves were freed many chose to stay on with their “masters” because they didn’t know any other way of being in the world. Dependent for so long, they were afraid of starving if left to their own devices; but, the majority bravely went forth, conquering their fears and forging new lives. […]
Only you can gauge if sex with your soon-to-be-ex is a good idea. In the short term it may feel wonderful; after all, you may have enjoyed a happy sexual relationship. It’s natural to want some physical affection and attention during this draught, and divorce is fodder for insecurities. What better way to quell those […]
Love’s not a faucet you can turn off because suddenly the water is polluted. Intellectually, especially after betrayal, you may seek a separation or divorce; but, emotionally, you’re still connected. It’s like phantom limb syndrome. The leg was gangrenous, but it’s hard to see it go. Then, for months or years, you have phantom limb […]
Nicole S. Urdang, M.S., NCC, DHM is a Holistic Psychotherapist in Buffalo, NY. She holds a New York state license in mental health counseling and a doctorate in homeopathic medicine from the British Institute of Homeopathy.
As an Associate Fellow at the Albert Ellis Institute Nicole trained with the founder of Rational-Emotive Behavior Therapy for over 25 years.
Nicole has studied psychology, philosophy, yoga, nutrition, clinical hypnosis, journaling, dream analysis, Cognitive-Behavior Therapy, Gestalt Therapy, Sexuality and Gender Issues at the Kinsey Institute, Inner Child work, Internal Family Systems, Bach Flower Essences, herbs, Tapping (EFT), homeopathy, meditation, Sanskrit mantras, and yogic breath work all of which inform her holistic approach to mind-body issues.
In the early 1980s she created and hosted one of the country’s first call-in radio counseling shows on WKBW.
If you live outside the greater Buffalo-Niagara area and would like to speak with Nicole, you can schedule a phone session. Contact information is available on goodtherapy.org or just call 716-882-0848.