Welcome to Holistic Divorce Counseling
Holistic Psychotherapist Nicole S. Urdang, MS, NCC, DHM, LMHC.
The purpose of Holistic Divorce Counseling is to provide support, resources, and comfort for all life’s issues and transitions, not just the cosmic hazing of divorce.
I want to talk to you about the gift of disillusion and its ultimate reward: accepting life on life’s terms. Clinging to illusions starts early. We all want to believe in Santa Claus, the Tooth Fairy, and magic. They soothe and bolster our spirits. Of course, we are loath to relinquish them. Even as adults, […]
A few weeks ago, our minister was welcoming a new baby into the congregation. He asked us all to help this child fail safely. What a great concept. This fit so perfectly with one of my pet issues: the importance of nurturing compassion for oneself. It reminded me of a sermon I heard about a […]
With each passing day, I believe more deeply that everything is happening for our highest good. The problem is we can feel mighty low in the moments, days, and months before that becomes apparent. It’s quite a challenge to remember this optimistic aphorism when feeling lower than a snake’s wiggle, but you can […]
There may be times after your break-up or divorce when you question why you are not with your ex. Perhaps, you hear that s/he is with someone else, you have a lonely moment, or, suddenly, you remember a happy time. It’s normal to wonder whether you made the right decision. Very often, life-changing […]
A subtle, but pervasive, aspect of divorce is the way your pronouns change: “we” becomes “I,” “our” becomes “mine,” and “us” becomes “me.” This may sound like a small grammatical dot on the horizon of your life, but it infiltrates many perceptions, like ownership, identity, and your newly single state. Every time you switch from […]
The library of congress has a treasure trove of poems for any mood. You can find their offerings here: https://www.loc.gov/programs/poetry-and-literature/poet-laureate/poet-laureate-projects/poetry-180/all-poems/item/poetry-180-148/happiness/?loclr=lsp1_rg0001 Here are some of my favorites: Love After Love The time will come when, with elation you will greet yourself arriving at your own door, in your own mirror and each will smile at […]
The most important relationship you’ll ever have is with you. Considering that you are with yourself every minute of every day, why not make this your most loving alliance? While there are many reasons for not having developed a great bond with yourself, there’s no upside in cataloguing them. In lieu of focusing […]
When my children were in pre-school they said a little prayer before snack time: Thank you for the food we eat, Thank you for the world so sweet, Thank you for the birds that sing, Thank you God for everything. Over the past couple of years I have incorporated that poignant set of reminders into […]
Only Robinson Crusoe had everything done by Friday. Author Unknown Anyone can do any amount of work, provided it isn’t the work he is supposed to be doing at that moment. Robert Benchley Until you value yourself, you will not value your time. Until you value your time, you will not do anything with it. M. […]
Despite what you may have been lead to believe, self-confidence, self-esteem, and self-acceptance are all different and produce different states of mind. Self-confidence is born of repeated experiences at which you eventually excel. Self-esteem is based on thinking you are accomplished at something and that makes you better than someone else (essentially, you hold […]
Nicole S. Urdang, M.S., NCC, DHM is a Holistic Psychotherapist in Buffalo, NY. She holds a New York state license in mental health counseling and a doctorate in homeopathic medicine from the British Institute of Homeopathy.
As an Associate Fellow at the Albert Ellis Institute Nicole trained with the founder of Rational-Emotive Behavior Therapy for over 25 years.
Nicole has studied psychology, philosophy, yoga, nutrition, clinical hypnosis, journaling, dream analysis, Cognitive-Behavior Therapy, Gestalt Therapy, Sexuality and Gender Issues at the Kinsey Institute, Inner Child work, Internal Family Systems, Bach Flower Essences, herbs, Tapping (EFT), homeopathy, meditation, Sanskrit mantras, and yogic breath work all of which inform her holistic approach to mind-body issues.
In the early 1980s she created and hosted one of the country’s first call-in radio counseling shows on WKBW.
If you live outside the greater Buffalo-Niagara area and would like to speak with Nicole, you can schedule a phone session. Contact information is available on goodtherapy.org or just call 716-882-0848.