Welcome to Holistic Divorce Counseling
Holistic Psychotherapist Nicole S. Urdang, MS, NCC, DHM, LMHC.
The purpose of Holistic Divorce Counseling is to provide support, resources, and comfort for all life’s issues and transitions, not just the cosmic hazing of divorce.
While there are many wonderful mantras in English and Sanskrit, it is helpful to have a simple all purpose phrase when life feels especially challenging. At those times, the shorter the better. “It’s OK” seems to fit the bill, as long as you say it with love in your heart and aim some soothing calm […]
The healing powers of compromise are often touted by counselors and psychologists as a balm to relationships. The sad truth is, whenever you compromise you aren’t getting what you want, because you are delaying your gratification in favor of “acting like an adult,” and putting your relationship before your current desires. That would be OK […]
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Recently, I saw Meryl Streep and Alec Baldwin’s new movie, “It’s Complicated.” Most of the time, I was laughing uncontrollably. I can’t even remember when I last laughed that hard. The hilarity stopped abruptly when, near the end, I saw the looks on their adult children’s faces. Each one a kaleidoscope of bewilderment, pain, and […]
Even without a divorce on the horizon, almost everyone wants to eat better for less. At first, maximizing your food budget can seem daunting; but, with practice, it becomes creative, fun, and empowering. The following is a list of suggestions for eating balanced, nutrient dense foods without spending a fortune. * Before you choose any […]
It is natural to have bouts of insomnia when going through major life changes. Here are a few non-pharmaceutical techniques that work better the more you use them. * Try virtual alternate nostril breathing. Unlike traditional alternate nostril breathing, you do not use your fingers to close off a nostril. (This is from Elsie’s Yoga […]
After the dust settles, the divorce is final, the body is buried, or the child has moved far away, you may be tempted to wonder if you made a mistake. Was it wrong to divorce someone who abused you? Was it poor judgment to estrange yourself from a toxic parent or sibling? Should you have […]
As you know, the holidays can easily push all your emotional buttons; and, that’s for people whose lives are fairly balanced. If you have experienced a recent death, divorce, or move, your reactions may be more heightened. All that stress can make you extra sensitive to the wrong comment. While you can’t control what people […]
You have neat, tight expectations of what life ought to give you, but you won’t get it. This isn’t what life does. Life does not accommodate you, it shatters you. It is meant to, and it couldn’t do it better. Every seed destroys its container or else there would be no fruition.” Flora Scott-Maxwell Grief […]
Willing to experience aloneness, I discover connection everywhere; Turning to face my fear, I meet the warrior who lives within; Opening to my loss, I am given unimaginable gifts; Surrendering into emptiness, I find fullness without end. Each condition I flee from pursues me. Each condition I welcome transforms me And becomes itself transformed…. Jennifer […]
Nicole S. Urdang, M.S., NCC, DHM is a Holistic Psychotherapist in Buffalo, NY. She holds a New York state license in mental health counseling and a doctorate in homeopathic medicine from the British Institute of Homeopathy.
As an Associate Fellow at the Albert Ellis Institute Nicole trained with the founder of Rational-Emotive Behavior Therapy for over 25 years.
Nicole has studied psychology, philosophy, yoga, nutrition, clinical hypnosis, journaling, dream analysis, Cognitive-Behavior Therapy, Gestalt Therapy, Sexuality and Gender Issues at the Kinsey Institute, Inner Child work, Internal Family Systems, Bach Flower Essences, herbs, Tapping (EFT), homeopathy, meditation, Sanskrit mantras, and yogic breath work all of which inform her holistic approach to mind-body issues.
In the early 1980s she created and hosted one of the country’s first call-in radio counseling shows on WKBW.
If you live outside the greater Buffalo-Niagara area and would like to speak with Nicole, you can schedule a phone session. Contact information is available on goodtherapy.org or just call 716-882-0848.