Welcome to Holistic Divorce Counseling
Holistic Psychotherapist Nicole S. Urdang, MS, NCC, DHM, LMHC.
The purpose of Holistic Divorce Counseling is to provide support, resources, and comfort for all life’s issues and transitions, not just the cosmic hazing of divorce.
“He who controls others may feel powerful, but he who has mastered himself is mightier still.” Lao Tzu in the Tao Te Ching “When you doubt your power, you give power to your doubt.” Anonymous “The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don’t have […]
“Resistance is futile.” The Borg Most people are born with a resistance gene. We fight anything we don’t like, or isn’t ego-gratifying, with a vengeance. When our life is in the blender, spinning around like a whirling dervish on crack, we resist. We swim against the tide, rather than let go and allow it to […]
Whether you have been good at asking for help in the past, or not, now is the time to reach out. When you experience a loss through death, the dissolution of a relationship, or transformation, grief engenders two primal desires. One seeks solitude to nurse the wounds, while the other asks for company, someone to […]
Yes, you’re right. If you open your heart you risk getting hurt. But, what’s the alternative? A life devoid of love and passion? How alluring is that? The illusion of safety may be appealing, but over-protection usually leads to isolation. Is there a way to shield yourself and still be receptive? Not that I know […]
There are different types of safety, but the most important one is the safe, secure feeling you can create within yourself. When coupled, whether due to two incomes, another breathing body next to yours, or the sense that someone is there for you, it is easier to feel supported and cared for. Once on your […]
It is wise to remember that the prefrontal cortex, where most higher level thinking takes place, isn’t fully developed until the mid-late twenties. Therefore, young adults, even those with jobs, relationships, and kids of their own are very likely to make foolish decisions. They may side with one parent (typically, the one whose […]
There seems to be a prevailing philosophy that all grief should disappear in a short time. Its mantra, “Get over it already,” is uttered incessantly, whether you just broke-up, lost a job, had an accident, or buried a loved one. What’s the rush, and whose healing schedule are you on? Surely, not theirs. Grief work […]
Transitioning from the person you were to the person you are becoming is like birth: messy, painful, and unpredictable. Allowing yourself to awaken to awareness, as the yogis say, can be a real boon to the process. What does awakening to awareness really mean? It’s when you let all the material that lies just beneath […]
I want to talk to you about the gift of disillusion and its ultimate reward: accepting life on life’s terms. Clinging to illusions starts early. We all want to believe in Santa Claus, the Tooth Fairy, and magic. They soothe and bolster our spirits. Of course, we are loath to relinquish them. Even as adults, […]
A few weeks ago, our minister was welcoming a new baby into the congregation. He asked us all to help this child fail safely. What a great concept. This fit so perfectly with one of my pet issues: the importance of nurturing compassion for oneself. It reminded me of a sermon I heard about a […]
Nicole S. Urdang, M.S., NCC, DHM is a Holistic Psychotherapist in Buffalo, NY. She holds a New York state license in mental health counseling and a doctorate in homeopathic medicine from the British Institute of Homeopathy.
As an Associate Fellow at the Albert Ellis Institute Nicole trained with the founder of Rational-Emotive Behavior Therapy for over 25 years.
Nicole has studied psychology, philosophy, yoga, nutrition, clinical hypnosis, journaling, dream analysis, Cognitive-Behavior Therapy, Gestalt Therapy, Sexuality and Gender Issues at the Kinsey Institute, Inner Child work, Internal Family Systems, Bach Flower Essences, herbs, Tapping (EFT), homeopathy, meditation, Sanskrit mantras, and yogic breath work all of which inform her holistic approach to mind-body issues.
In the early 1980s she created and hosted one of the country’s first call-in radio counseling shows on WKBW.
If you live outside the greater Buffalo-Niagara area and would like to speak with Nicole, you can schedule a phone session. Contact information is available on goodtherapy.org or just call 716-882-0848.