Trauma

Use Tapping (EFT) to Relieve Stress, Clear Negative Emotions & Feel Safe

By Nicole Urdang | April 22, 2017
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Have you heard about Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) or Tapping? Nick and Jessica Ortner recently hosted the Ninth Annual Tapping Summit which explored many possible ways this method helps you deal with stress, physical issues, anxiety, grief, guilt, depression, relationships, work challenges, parenting, and trauma. All of these benefit from Tapping’s almost-immediate calming of your nervous system. […]

Don’t underestimate your ability to handle life’s challenges

By Nicole Urdang | October 12, 2016
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Anxiety, anger, or any other negative emotional reaction is often triggered by underestimating your ability to handle life’s challenges and overestimating the severity of a possible negative outcome. In the midst of a crisis or life transition it is all too easy to be thrown off course. Whatever sense of emotional terra firma you felt […]

Why Do Most Therapists Care So Much About Your Childhood?

By Nicole Urdang | September 16, 2016
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“What’s past is prologue.” William Shakespeare, The Tempest The thing about the past is that it’s not the past. Irish saying People are often deterred from starting therapy because they think they will have to dredge up unpleasant things from their childhood, which can feel daunting. Yet, childhood experiences will surface, as they typically influence […]

How to feel safe in the midst of suffering

By Nicole Urdang | May 31, 2016
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People are like plants: they grow toward the light. I chose science because science gave me what I needed—a home as defined in the most literal sense: a safe place to be. Hope Jahren If you had a childhood full of drama, yelling, violence, addiction, over-controlling or neglectful parents, it can be especially difficult to […]

Family Secrets: How to Overcome their Toxic Legacy 

By Nicole Urdang | December 14, 2015
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Nothing makes us so lonely as our secrets. Paul Tournier We dance round in a ring and suppose, but the secret sits in the middle and knows. Robert Frost, The Secret Sits In families where there is addiction, abuse, criminal behavior, or mental illness, there is usually a code of silence that dictates the actions […]

How Abandonment Issues Affect Intimate Relationships

By Nicole Urdang | August 25, 2015
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“Finally, I decide I am my own case history, and if I don’t dig in to understand what I am doing, I will be spending the years ahead in a vexing pattern of intimacy and abandonment.” Dominique Browning in “Slow Love” Dig in is right. Dig in and root around is even more accurate. Of […]