Self-compassion

Loving Yourself May Be Easier Than You Thought

By Nicole Urdang | October 17, 2010
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“Be thine own palace or the world’s thy jail.” John Donne What a strange world where loving yourself isn’t second nature. Perhaps everyone is born with the capacity to love themselves, but the vagaries of life steal attention from this sacred task. Luckily, with a little awareness and effort, you can consciously reconnect with the […]

We’re All In Recovery, So Welcome To The Club

By Nicole Urdang | July 26, 2010
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Whether it was a parent, teacher, grandparent, uncle, aunt, friend, boss, sister, brother, classmate, or co-worker, at some point, everyone has been affected by damaging remarks, criticism, physical abuse, harassment, or sexual abuse. You may think it extreme to say that we are all in recovery, but you don’t have to be a mathematician to […]

Feed Your Brain Loving Thoughts and Watch What Happens

By Nicole Urdang | July 14, 2010
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Let’s pretend you’re washing lettuce for a salad. You see a few rusty-edged pieces and remove them. It’s second nature. You didn’t have to consciously think, “I don’t want to put something unappealing or toxic in my body.” You intuitively knew. Unfortunately, it is not that easy when it comes to your mind. Allowing unwanted, […]

Support

By Nicole Urdang | January 19, 2009
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  Hillary Rodham Clinton once said, “It takes a village to raise a child.”   Abigail Trafford claims “It takes two to get married, but you get divorced by yourself.”   I believe it takes a village to get divorced.     Here’s my list of the supporting cast necessary to help you through divorce, […]

Self-Pity Can Actually Help you Feel Better, Sometimes.

By Nicole Urdang | October 15, 2008
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The Buddha taught there is no one more deserving of compassion than you.  More recently, acupuncturist Barbara Sullivan said, “Self-pity is like self-comfort.”  Not only can it be OK, it may be beneficial. Self-pity has gotten a bad rap. There are times when feeling sorry for yourself opens the floodgates and lets all your sadness […]