Self-compassion

A Quick Practice to Help You Develop Compassion for Yourself and Others

By Nicole Urdang | June 21, 2018
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Sometimes, the easiest way for us to see where we are hard on ourselves is to notice how harshly we react to other people’s behavior. Here’s a quick way to shift your perspective while developing more self-compassion. When someone behaves in a way you don’t like or understand try saying this to yourself: Just like […]

The Holy Grail of Psychotherapy: What It Is And How You Can Achieve It

By Nicole Urdang | July 13, 2017
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After 45 years as a psychotherapist I now believe the holy grail of therapy is helping people feel safe. If that sounds too simplistic, just think about it. Whatever you are dealing with: anxiety, depression, grief, guilt, or anger, the best possible outcome is feeling safe in your body, mind, emotions, and environment. If you […]

Compare to Despair or Cultivate Self-Acceptance

By Nicole Urdang | January 5, 2016
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Comparison is the death of joy. Mark Twain If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else’s, we’d grab ours back. Regina Brett If you look at the symbol commonly used to show Yin and Yang you will notice each of the larger shapes has a small circle of the opposite […]

Fall in Love With Yourself

By Nicole Urdang | September 2, 2012
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To fall in love with yourself is the first secret to happiness. Robert Morely To love yourself right now, just as you are, is to give yourself heaven. Don’t wait until you die. If you wait, you die now. If you love, you live now. Alan Cohen You, yourself, as much as anybody in the […]

Self-Compassion: Cultivating Deep Kindness for Yourself

By Nicole Urdang | August 29, 2012
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These days it seems as if every website, book, and podcast is encouraging self-compassion as a path to inner freedom and peace. And rightly so. Showering yourself with loving kindness will surely make you feel better, no matter what’s ailing your body, mind, or spirit. The problem is, how exactly do you do it? While […]

It’s OK Sweetheart: Learn to Cherish and Calm Your Sweet Self

By Nicole Urdang | November 25, 2010
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In America everyone is indoctrinated to believe that doing well ensures a good life. Certainly, it’s satisfying to succeed, whether at work, school, relationships, sports, or anything else, but even if you do everything according to society’s plan, there is no guarantee life will be peachy. At various times you may find yourself facing unexpected […]