Relationships

Open Your Heart

By Nicole Urdang | October 7, 2008
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  In yoga, it is common to practice “heart-opening poses.”  These are often backbends that open the heart chakra (there are seven chakras, or energy centers, running up the spine). You might think, “My heart is hurting enough, thank you very much. Why would I want to open it up more?” Not for pain, but […]

Scripting: A New Tool To Help You Avoid Conflict

By Nicole Urdang | October 3, 2008
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I created a simple tool that helps people avoid conflict and enjoy the more harmonious relationships.  I call it “Scripting” because you actually ask the other person to say exactly what you want to hear in a given situation.  Obviously, you wouldn’t want to employ this technique all the time, but it is an excellent […]

Guilt: The Useless Emotion

By Nicole Urdang | October 1, 2008
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Guilt is actually worse than useless, as it fosters bad feelings towards yourself and others. It’s easy to think that guilt motivates you to do better in the future, but that’s not actually what happens. Guilt leads to resentment of the person you might have wronged. Here’s how it works: if they didn’t exist you […]