We have a two-tired system for the treatment of emotional and physical abuse. If someone beats you up everyone is sympathetic and rushes to your side. On the other hand, if someone emotionally abuses you people steer clear. They may even suggest you put it behind you, forget about it, get over it, or forgive […]
The road to hell is paved with good intentions. Whenever you are going through something particularly taxing, you can be sure everyone will have an opinion. And, they have to share it. People come from all sorts of emotional and psychological places, so remember to take what they say with a pound of salt. […]
Have you ever noticed how threatened you can feel when someone doesn’t agree with you? Over-identification with your thoughts is the culprit. Believing you are your opinions when, in reality, you are far more. Why is it so crucial for our intimates agree with us? Is it all ego? Must we prove we’re right to […]
Love’s not a faucet you can turn off because suddenly the water is polluted. Intellectually, especially after betrayal, you may seek a separation or divorce; but, emotionally, you’re still connected. It’s like phantom limb syndrome. The leg was gangrenous, but it’s hard to see it go. Then, for months or years, you have phantom limb […]
All anger comes from demands we make of ourself or others. Think back to the last time you were irate. Was it because something didn’t go your way? Did someone behave badly towards you? Did you do something you thought you shouldn’t? Perhaps, some injustice occurred on a national level. In each situation your demanding […]
In yoga, it is common to practice “heart-opening poses.” These are often backbends that open the heart chakra (there are seven chakras, or energy centers, running up the spine). You might think, “My heart is hurting enough, thank you very much. Why would I want to open it up more?” Not for pain, but […]