Relationships

Anger, Aggression, Passivity, and Passive-Aggressiveness

By Nicole Urdang | October 10, 2008
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All anger comes from demands we make of ourself or others.  Think back to the last time you were irate.  Was it because something didn’t go your way?  Did someone behave badly towards you?  Did you do something you thought you shouldn’t?  Perhaps, some injustice occurred on a national level.  In each situation your demanding […]

Open Your Heart

By Nicole Urdang | October 7, 2008
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  In yoga, it is common to practice “heart-opening poses.”  These are often backbends that open the heart chakra (there are seven chakras, or energy centers, running up the spine). You might think, “My heart is hurting enough, thank you very much. Why would I want to open it up more?” Not for pain, but […]

Scripting: A New Tool To Help Your Relationships

By Nicole Urdang | October 3, 2008
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  I recently created a simple tool that has been helping people have an easier time with their relationships.  I call it “Scripting” because you actually ask the other person to say exactly what you want to hear in a given situation.  Obviously, you wouldn’t want to employ this technique all the time, but it […]

Guilt: The Useless Emotion

By Nicole Urdang | October 1, 2008
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Guilt is actually worse than useless, as it fosters bad feelings towards yourself and others. It’s easy to think that guilt motivates you to do better in the future, but that’s not actually what happens. Guilt leads to resentment of the person you might have wronged. Here’s how it works: if they didn’t exist you […]