Reflections on Your Relationship

By Nicole Urdang | June 8, 2009
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    There may be times after your break-up or divorce when you question why you are not with your ex.  Perhaps, you hear that s/he is with someone else, you have a lonely moment, or, suddenly, you remember a happy time.  It’s normal to wonder whether you made the right decision.  Very often, life-changing […]

The Most Important Relationship You’ll Ever Have

By Nicole Urdang | May 31, 2009
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  The most important relationship you’ll ever have is with you.  Considering that you are with yourself every minute of every day, why not make this your most loving alliance?   While there are many reasons for not having developed a great bond with yourself, there’s no upside in cataloguing them.  In lieu of focusing […]

Sex, Drugs, and Rock ‘n’ Roll

By Nicole Urdang | April 11, 2009
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It’s very tempting, when you are suddenly free from the constraints of a committed relationship, to want to party hearty.  But, as my father used to say, “Act in haste and repent at leisure.” By all means, date; but, be careful. I am not simply talking about safety here, or STDs, but your emotional state. […]

Addiction: What To Do If You Love An Addict

By Nicole Urdang | April 4, 2009
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Realism is a crucial concept when it comes to recovery from addiction.  AA understands this so well that when someone slips (resumes their addictive behavior) they assume the best; namely, that he or she will get back in the saddle and regain their sobriety. All addictions are the same, in that they are obsessive-compulsive disorders. […]

Betrayal As A Path To Personal Evolution and Growth

By Nicole Urdang | January 5, 2009
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No matter how old you are there is still a little child inside you.  He or she craves truth and fairness.  Who hasn’t heard the lament “That’s not fair!” yelled in a playground or schoolroom?  Craving truth seems to be innate.  That’s why betrayal, whose coin of the realm is lying, goes against our grain […]

Betrayal: Understanding It and Starting To Heal

By Nicole Urdang | December 13, 2008
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The greater the love and loyalty, the involvement and commitment, the greater the betrayal. James Hillman Oh what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive. Sir Walter Scott Secrets, lies, cheating.  They’re all forms of betrayal, and they all destroy trust. As a therapist I have seen my share of emotional […]