Love Is Not a Faucet You Can Turn On And Off

By Nicole Urdang | August 31, 2010
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Love is not a faucet you can turn on and off at will. If you have spent years, or decades, with someone, even if that time was not always so wonderful, even if you came to disrespect or feel contempt for your partner, the simple act of sharing a life bound you on a cellular […]

Money Matters

By Nicole Urdang | March 21, 2010
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We all need money. You can live on a little or a lot, but you need some. For most people, one of the biggest challenges as you move through a divorce is how you will manage financially. With everything up in the air, just thinking of your economic future can quiver the most stalwart heart. […]

Compromise or Cooperate?

By Nicole Urdang | January 26, 2010
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The healing powers of compromise are often touted by counselors and psychologists as a balm to relationships. The sad truth is, whenever you compromise you aren’t getting what you want, because you are delaying your gratification in favor of “acting like an adult,” and putting your relationship before your current desires. That would be OK […]


By Nicole Urdang | January 17, 2010
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If you are dating after a long hiatus you may want to view the following videos for some amusing—and helpful—hints on how to kiss.

Children: Collateral Damage to Adult Children Of Divorced Parents

By Nicole Urdang | December 27, 2009
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Recently, I saw Meryl Streep and Alec Baldwin’s new movie, “It’s Complicated.”  Most of the time, I  was laughing uncontrollably.  I can’t even remember when I last laughed that hard. The hilarity stopped abruptly when, near the end, I saw the looks on their adult children’s faces. Each one a kaleidoscope of bewilderment, pain, and […]

Reaching Out During Times of Stress, Divorce, or Grief

By Nicole Urdang | September 11, 2009
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Whether you have been good at asking for help in the past, or not, now is the time to reach out.  When you experience a loss through death, the dissolution of a relationship, or transformation, grief engenders two primal desires.  One seeks solitude to nurse the wounds, while the other asks for company, someone to […]