By Nicole Urdang | July 29, 2011
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When people show you who they are believe them. Maya Angelou If hope is the thing with feathers, as Emily Dickenson said, then trust floats on gossamer wings. Most people lose that child-like trust with the end of a first love, but not all. I have known a handful of souls who maintained it until […]

Complaining: A Path To Authenticity and Less Pain

By Nicole Urdang | July 15, 2011
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“What annoyances are more painful than those of which we cannot complain?” Marquis de Custine “Things are seldom what they seem, skim milk masquerades as cream.” From H.M.S. Pinafore by Gilbert and Sullivan Have you ever noticed yourself vacillating between feeling grateful and complaining? Take heart, they don’t cancel each other out, nor do they […]

Patience: How To Cultivate It

By Nicole Urdang | May 16, 2011
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How poor are they who have not patience! What wound did ever heal but by degrees. William Shakespeare (1564 – 1616) Patience is the best remedy for every trouble. Titus Maccius Plautus (254 BC – 184 BC) “Patience is the ability to idle your motor when you feel like stripping your gears.” Barbara Johnson Many […]

Thank You, I’m Sorry

By Nicole Urdang | February 26, 2011
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We often think the three words that will change our lives are “I love you,” but there are actually four words that will improve and enhance all your relationships. They are: “Thank You,” and “I’m Sorry.” Just as a little experiment, recall a difficult situation you encountered with another person. If one of you had […]

Love Is Not a Faucet You Can Turn On And Off

By Nicole Urdang | August 31, 2010
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Love is not a faucet you can turn on and off at will. If you have spent years, or decades, with someone, even if that time was not always so wonderful, even if you came to disrespect or feel contempt for your partner, the simple act of sharing a life bound you on a cellular […]

Money Matters

By Nicole Urdang | March 21, 2010
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We all need money. You can live on a little or a lot, but you need some. For most people, one of the biggest challenges as you move through a divorce is how you will manage financially. With everything up in the air, just thinking of your economic future can quiver the most stalwart heart. […]