Accepting People As They Are

By Nicole Urdang | June 26, 2012
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God grant me the serenity to accept the people I cannot change, the courage to change the one I can, and the wisdom to know it’s me. Variation of an excerpt from “The Serenity Prayer” Reinhold Neibuhr People are who they are and they will show you who they are. To be mad at them […]

Say something nice and watch the world change

By Nicole Urdang | December 23, 2011
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How many things can you think of that are free, make people feel better, and empower the giver? I can only come up with a few, and they all involve saying something nice. I’m not suggesting you lie, but if you pay attention, there is almost always something you can find to say that is […]


By Nicole Urdang | July 29, 2011
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When people show you who they are believe them. Maya Angelou If hope is the thing with feathers, as Emily Dickenson said, then trust floats on gossamer wings. Most people lose that child-like trust with the end of a first love, but not all. I have known a handful of souls who maintained it until […]

Complaining: A Path To Authenticity and Less Pain

By Nicole Urdang | July 15, 2011
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“What annoyances are more painful than those of which we cannot complain?” Marquis de Custine “Things are seldom what they seem, skim milk masquerades as cream.” From H.M.S. Pinafore by Gilbert and Sullivan Have you ever noticed yourself vacillating between feeling grateful and complaining? Take heart, they don’t cancel each other out, nor do they […]

Patience: How To Cultivate It

By Nicole Urdang | May 16, 2011
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How poor are they who have not patience! What wound did ever heal but by degrees. William Shakespeare (1564 – 1616) Patience is the best remedy for every trouble. Titus Maccius Plautus (254 BC – 184 BC) “Patience is the ability to idle your motor when you feel like stripping your gears.” Barbara Johnson Many […]

Thank You, I’m Sorry

By Nicole Urdang | February 26, 2011
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We often think the three words that will change our lives are “I love you,” but there are actually four words that will improve and enhance all your relationships. They are: “Thank You,” and “I’m Sorry.” Just as a little experiment, recall a difficult situation you encountered with another person. If one of you had […]