Don’t underestimate your ability to handle life’s challenges

By Nicole Urdang | October 12, 2016
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Anxiety, anger, or any other negative emotional reaction is often triggered by underestimating your ability to handle life’s challenges and overestimating the severity of a possible negative outcome. In the midst of a crisis or life transition it is all too easy to be thrown off course. Whatever sense of emotional terra firma you felt […]

Gaining A Foothold Amid Chaos

By Nicole Urdang | January 16, 2015
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“Pain is not punishment, pleasure is not a reward. Both are just natural occurrences. Kindness, kindness, kindness.” Chögyam Trungpa Rinpoche to a bride and groom at their wedding. Sometimes, life can feel like a whirlpool and you are being dragged into the vortex of hell. Hell might be dissonance in a relationship, financial or physical […]

Overwhelmed, stressed and self-critical?

By Nicole Urdang | September 17, 2013
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Some days, it may seem as if you are boxing with your brain. The hits keep coming, and it’s all you can do to fend them off. Perhaps, you are orchestrating a life that is overflowing with responsibilities. Do you put a ton of pressure on yourself thinking everything has to be done perfectly? Maybe, […]

Demons: Befriend Them If You Want To Change & Grow

By Nicole Urdang | November 5, 2011
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Life will give you whatever experience is most helpful for the evolution of your consciousness. How do you know this is the experience you need? Because this is the experience you are having at this moment. Eckhart Tolle If you are reading this, the demons haven’t won. Facing your demons is part of life. From […]

Emotional First Aid

By Nicole Urdang | August 17, 2010
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Ten ways to handle bad news: 1. Breathe deeply and slowly. Use grounding techniques (see Grounding Techniques). 2. Remember: This will pass. 3. Don’t take it personally, no matter what happened. 4. Allow all your feelings; yes, all of them. 5. Have faith in yourself. You are more competent than you think right this moment. […]

Suicide: What to do with suicidal thoughts

By Nicole Urdang | April 13, 2010
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Don’t give up before the miracle happens. Fannie Flagg. The main thing to understand about suicide is: DON’T DO IT! Life may seem darker than an oil slick and bleaker than a bad diagnosis, and still be precious. When you are mired in misery, it’s best to remember that your most important job is taking […]