Inner work

Awaken To Awareness: Tips For Dealing With Life

By Nicole Urdang | July 5, 2009
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Transitioning from the person you were to the person you are becoming is like birth: messy, painful, and unpredictable.  Allowing yourself to awaken to awareness, as the yogis say, can be a real boon to the process. What does awakening to awareness really mean?  It’s when you let all the material that lies just beneath […]

Embracing Failure

By Nicole Urdang | June 9, 2009
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A few weeks ago, our minister was welcoming a new baby into the congregation.  He asked us all to help this child fail safely.  What a great concept. This fit so perfectly with one of my pet issues: the importance of nurturing compassion for oneself.  It reminded me of a sermon I heard about a […]

Your Highest Good

By Nicole Urdang | June 8, 2009
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  With each passing day, I believe more deeply that everything is happening for our highest good.  The problem is we can feel mighty low in the moments, days, and months before that becomes apparent.   It’s quite a challenge to remember this optimistic aphorism when feeling lower than a snake’s wiggle, but you can […]

The Most Important Relationship You’ll Ever Have

By Nicole Urdang | May 31, 2009
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  The most important relationship you’ll ever have is with you.  Considering that you are with yourself every minute of every day, why not make this your most loving alliance?   While there are many reasons for not having developed a great bond with yourself, there’s no upside in cataloguing them.  In lieu of focusing […]


By Nicole Urdang | May 26, 2009
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Only Robinson Crusoe had everything done by Friday.  Author Unknown Anyone can do any amount of work, provided it isn’t the work he is supposed to be doing at that moment.  Robert Benchley Until you value yourself, you will not value your time. Until you value your time, you will not do anything with it.  M. […]

Self-Confidence, Self-Esteem, & Self-Acceptance

By Nicole Urdang | May 3, 2009
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  Despite what you may have been lead to believe, self-confidence, self-esteem, and self-acceptance are all different and produce different states of mind.  Self-confidence is born of repeated experiences at which you eventually excel.  Self-esteem is based on thinking you are accomplished at something and that makes you better than someone else (essentially, you hold […]