Inner work

Finding Joy: A Quick Primer For Introverts

By Nicole Urdang | February 23, 2010
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I was talking with a friend the other day and she said her greatest joys were with other people. Immediately, I foraged through my memory to see where my highest highs had been. While many involved other people, there were plenty of times I was alone when I felt connection, grace, open-heartedness, and a soul […]

Interior Design & Wabi-Sabi

By Nicole Urdang | February 15, 2010
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Once upon a time, the Chinese system of Feng Shui was unknown in the West. Now, many people understand how one’s environment either augments inner harmony or impedes it. In Japan, there’s a philosophy of design focusing on the beauty of imperfect, incomplete, and impermanent things. It is called Wabi-Sabi. Like the famous Gestalt head […]

Second-guessing Yourself

By Nicole Urdang | December 2, 2009
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After the dust settles, the divorce is final, the body is buried, or the child has moved far away, you may be tempted to wonder if you made a mistake. Was it wrong to divorce someone who abused you? Was it poor judgment to estrange yourself from a toxic parent or sibling? Should you have […]

Challenge Your Values To Change Your Perspectiv

By Nicole Urdang | September 30, 2009
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 Everyone goes through cycles of peace and unease. If a value you have held for years no longer increases your peace, if it keeps you stuck in some unhelpful place or mind-set, it may be time to release it.   Values prop up your sense of self, your ego. It can be strengthening to think: […]

Reclaim Your Power

By Nicole Urdang | September 29, 2009
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    “He who controls others may feel powerful, but he who has mastered himself is mightier still.”    Lao Tzu in the Tao Te Ching    “When you doubt your power, you give power to your doubt.”   Anonymous   “The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don’t have […]

Fearless Open-Heartedness: Risks and Rewards

By Nicole Urdang | September 2, 2009
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Yes, you’re right.  If you open your heart you risk getting hurt.  But, what’s the alternative?  A life devoid of love and passion?  How alluring is that?  The illusion of safety may be appealing, but over-protection usually leads to isolation.  Is there a way to shield yourself and still be receptive?  Not that I know […]