Inner work

Complaining: A Path To Authenticity and Less Pain

By Nicole Urdang | July 15, 2011
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“What annoyances are more painful than those of which we cannot complain?” Marquis de Custine “Things are seldom what they seem, skim milk masquerades as cream.” From H.M.S. Pinafore by Gilbert and Sullivan Have you ever noticed yourself vacillating between feeling grateful and complaining? Take heart, they don’t cancel each other out, nor do they […]

Patience: How To Cultivate It

By Nicole Urdang | May 16, 2011
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How poor are they who have not patience! What wound did ever heal but by degrees. William Shakespeare (1564 – 1616) Patience is the best remedy for every trouble. Titus Maccius Plautus (254 BC – 184 BC) “Patience is the ability to idle your motor when you feel like stripping your gears.” Barbara Johnson Many […]

Time and Transformation

By Nicole Urdang | December 7, 2010
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There is something appealing about the old saying, “When life hands you lemons make lemonade.” As unpoetic as it may be, I would add, just give yourself time to find a pitcher, buy the sugar, and stir it all up. Similarly, even the harshest reality is an opportunity to learn, grow, and develop if you […]

It’s OK Sweetheart: Learn to Cherish and Calm Your Sweet Self

By Nicole Urdang | November 25, 2010
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In America everyone is indoctrinated to believe that doing well ensures a good life. Certainly, it’s satisfying to succeed, whether at work, school, relationships, sports, or anything else, but even if you do everything according to society’s plan, there is no guarantee life will be peachy. At various times you may find yourself facing unexpected […]

Loving Yourself May Be Easier Than You Thought

By Nicole Urdang | October 17, 2010
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“Be thine own palace or the world’s thy jail.” John Donne What a strange world where loving yourself isn’t second nature. Perhaps everyone is born with the capacity to love themselves, but the vagaries of life steal attention from this sacred task. Luckily, with a little awareness and effort, you can consciously reconnect with the […]

Feeling Your Feelings: You Can’t Heal What You Don’t Feel

By Nicole Urdang | July 29, 2010
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Can you imagine a life without one of your five senses? Maybe, but it certainly isn’t something you would joyfully embrace. Even if having all five senses means you sometimes see, smell, hear, touch, or taste things that elicit a negative reaction, you understand the gift of having all five far eclipses those unpleasant moments. […]