Inner work

The Myth of Being Stuck in a Rut: Your Inner Work is Not Always Conscious

By Nicole Urdang | June 6, 2020
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When the unconscious knows you are ready it will speak to you. Rick Hanson You are conscious every moment of your waking life, unless you’re in a coma or anesthetized. Because you’re aware of your analytical mind, it’s easy to think any psychological changes have to be achieved by conscious work. Thankfully, that is not […]

Less pain, more joy.

By Nicole Urdang | January 23, 2020
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Detaching from what causes you pain and attaching to what brings you joy sounds incredibly straightforward and almost absurd to write about, yet for most people it’s amazingly difficult. First of all, one must do a fairly fearless inventory to discern what actually brings you joy in the first place and what causes pain. This […]

What is Spiritual Bypassing and how you can overcome it.

By Nicole Urdang | March 24, 2019
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There is an unfortunate trend in many self-help podcasts, books and YouTube videos that encourages you to let go, accept and forgive through the use of affirmations. Letting go, even accepting and forgiving, is wonderful as long as you’re emotionally ready. Spiritual bypassing comes when you force yourself to resolve something even though you’re still […]

Masquerading Emotions: What your feelings are really telling you.

By Nicole Urdang | December 20, 2018
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What are your emotions really telling you? Clearly when you feel happy, elated or joyful your emotions are saying: “More please!” It doesn’t take a psychological sleuth to know what to do when you feel good; however, it does take a bit of digging to figure out what’s underneath the darker and more complex emotions. […]

You Are The Hero

By Nicole Urdang | September 6, 2018
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What is heroism? Courage, bravery and perseverance in the face of adversity. What personhas not had all three? This is not another chapter in the pantheon of modern narcissism, but a truism. It’s not easy being human. From the littlest discomfort to the hugest existential despair, health challenge or relationship dissolution, it takes guts to […]

Self-Care Quiz: Are you practicing self-awareness?

By Nicole Urdang | December 24, 2017
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Use the following quiz to determine if you are living a self examined life. Give yourself a point for any one of the following you do most days. Laugh, smile, and interact with others. Give of yourself or your resources in some way that feels meaningful. Meditate. Openly talk with friends, family, a therapist, or […]