Inner work


By Nicole Urdang | May 26, 2009
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Only Robinson Crusoe had everything done by Friday.  Author Unknown Anyone can do any amount of work, provided it isn’t the work he is supposed to be doing at that moment.  Robert Benchley Until you value yourself, you will not value your time. Until you value your time, you will not do anything with it.  M. […]

Self-Confidence, Self-Esteem, & Self-Acceptance

By Nicole Urdang | May 3, 2009
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  Despite what you may have been lead to believe, self-confidence, self-esteem, and self-acceptance are all different and produce different states of mind.  Self-confidence is born of repeated experiences at which you eventually excel.  Self-esteem is based on thinking you are accomplished at something and that makes you better than someone else (essentially, you hold […]

Wishing Can Make It So

By Nicole Urdang | January 12, 2009
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  The universe will bring your desires to fruition once you practice getting the message out, but you also have to notice when your wishes are granted.  This last part may sound really obvious, but it isn’t.  It’s imperative you pay attention.  We often overlook opportunities.  Once you ask for something be aware of whether […]

Fake It ‘Til You Make It

By Nicole Urdang | January 11, 2009
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  There are many jewels in the AA program.  One of my favorites is : Fake it ’til you make it.  Contrary to what you might think, this doesn’t mean you are being phony.  It is simply practicing a new way of thinking, or a new behavior, in the hope that it will become second […]

Feeling & Healing

By Nicole Urdang | December 21, 2008
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If you’re feeling you’re healing.  Conversely, if you’re not feeling you’re not healing.  I know I constantly harp on this, but only because it is so important.  Making it safe to feel your feelings will get you through all the emotional detritus surrounding divorce, or any other life transition.  In addition, by moving through your […]


By Nicole Urdang | November 15, 2008
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  Neuroscientists maintain you have pathways in the brain that get stronger with each repetition.  This is adaptive, as it makes learning go from awkward to second nature.  Do you actually think about putting your foot on the gas pedal while driving?  That neural pathway is so deeply established you feel as if you’re on […]