Grieving and Pre-grieving

By Nicole Urdang | April 2, 2010
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As you navigate loss through the long-term illness of a loved one, or years of growing detachment and sorrow before a divorce, you may think you have done most of your letting go. No doubt, you surrendered into the abyss of grief many times. But grief is a sneaky little demon, and will come back […]

Grief: Going From Pain To Peace

By Nicole Urdang | November 16, 2009
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You have neat, tight expectations of what life ought to give you, but you won’t get it. This isn’t what life does. Life does not accommodate you, it shatters you. It is meant to, and it couldn’t do it better. Every seed destroys its container or else there would be no fruition.” Flora Scott-Maxwell Grief […]

Reaching Out During Times of Stress, Divorce, or Grief

By Nicole Urdang | September 11, 2009
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Whether you have been good at asking for help in the past, or not, now is the time to reach out.  When you experience a loss through death, the dissolution of a relationship, or transformation, grief engenders two primal desires.  One seeks solitude to nurse the wounds, while the other asks for company, someone to […]


By Nicole Urdang | October 3, 2008
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  Grief is the most protean of emotions, constantly shifting from one feeling to another.  One minute you’re depressed, the next you’re angry.  Later you find yourself bargaining with life, and then you’re in the ozone of denial.  Acceptance comes, but only after you’ve faced your demons.   The thing to remember about grief is […]