How to Deal With Holidays After a Divorce, Death, or Move

By Nicole Urdang | November 28, 2009
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As you know, the holidays can easily push all your emotional buttons; and, that’s for people whose lives are fairly balanced. If you have experienced a recent death, divorce, or move, your reactions may be more heightened. All that stress can make you extra sensitive to the wrong comment. While you can’t control what people […]

From Loss To Liberation

By Nicole Urdang | October 29, 2009
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Willing to experience aloneness, I discover connection everywhere; Turning to face my fear, I meet the warrior who lives within; Opening to my loss, I am given unimaginable gifts; Surrendering into emptiness, I find fullness without end. Each condition I flee from pursues me. Each condition I welcome transforms me And becomes itself transformed…. Jennifer […]

Frazzled & Overwhelmed: Post Divorce, or Any Other Time

By Nicole Urdang | October 23, 2009
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During major life changes it is easy to feel raw, brittle, and overwhelmed by all the details that need your attention.  Some people become numb when faced with a tsunami of decisions and tasks, and some amp up their activity. It’s not so much how you manifest your inner frenzy, but what you can do […]

Affirmations To Help You through Divorce, Break-Up, or Life Transitions

By Nicole Urdang | October 22, 2009
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DIRECTIONS: Make your sweet self a cup of tea or hot chocolate. Sit somewhere private and comfortable. Read the following sentences aloud in your most loving, gentle voice. I will be OK. I feel devastated, but I will be fine. I may not be able to see it right now, but everything will work out […]

Reaching Out During Times of Stress, Divorce, or Grief

By Nicole Urdang | September 11, 2009
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Whether you have been good at asking for help in the past, or not, now is the time to reach out.  When you experience a loss through death, the dissolution of a relationship, or transformation, grief engenders two primal desires.  One seeks solitude to nurse the wounds, while the other asks for company, someone to […]

Post Divorce: How to Ask For Help, Even When You Don’t Like To

By Nicole Urdang | September 2, 2009
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There are different types of safety, but the most important one is the safe, secure feeling you can create within yourself.  When coupled, whether due to two incomes, another breathing body next to yours, or the sense that someone is there for you, it is easier to feel supported and cared for.  Once on your […]