If you have tension myositis syndrome (TMS), mind-body syndrome, or neuroplastic pain, you welcome any relief. Emotional freedom technique (EFT) is an amazing way to acknowledge your negative emotions, the cornerstone of much TMS treatment, do a somatic assessment, and reframe your perspective. I can’t think of one other method that does this so quickly and efficiently.
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Once you understand the basic EFT method, it can be beneficial to watch a YouTube video. I suggest Brad Yates’ offerings. You might like to look at this one called: Nothing To Be Afraid Of: https://youtu.be/nzAMxiiVWBw?si=3v_y7aDUdOV4UTkR
While Mr. Yates is a highly talented EFT practitioner, he cannot channel your particular mind, body, or history. Therefore, it’s crucial when watching tapping videos that you change the wording to better reflect what you think and feel.
Just like everything you have ever read about TMS, healing requires acknowledging your negative thoughts and feelings. In people susceptible to TMS, suppressing negative emotions unconsciously channels them into physical symptoms.
Many guided EFT videos do not include a somatic component, which is especially important for people with TMS, and those with tendencies to magnify every ache, pain, or symptom.
The first two words in any EFT tapping protocol are: Even though. They will immediately re-orient your thinking.
For example, a typical script might be:
Even though I have physical symptoms that annoy and challenge me, and I often think they will never improve, I choose to look back on other times in my life and remember how I managed every challenge, whether it was with grace, grit, or kicking and screaming.
Expressing choice in the set-up statement is pivotal as it reframes your perspective to one of personal agency and options.
Another popular way of phrasing the set-up statement could be something like this:
Even though I have physical symptoms that challenge me, and I often think they will never improve, I can still deeply and completely love, honor, and accept myself. And, if with everything that’s going on with you, you are still able to access a part of you that loves, honors and accepts yourself, that can be a good path. However, if you’re not honestly feeling that, it’s better to use a statement that reminds you of your ability to handle what you don’t like or choose a different perspective.
While tapping on the negative may seem counterintuitive, it’s crucial to start there and tap until you feel as if you have fully expressed your anger, grief, frustration, annoyance, overwhelment, or anything else. It’s tempting to dispense with the negative quickly, and to give it short shrift. In this day and age, with so much focus on positive thinking, it’s almost sacrilegious to focus on the negative, yet allowing yourself to fully feel and express your negative thoughts and feelings is necessary before exploring whatever physical sensations you’re having, and reframing your thoughts.
Tapping uses acupressure points to calm your nervous system as you speak, so there is very little danger of a negative rant triggering a full fight, fight, or freeze response. The safety net that EFT provides your nervous system allows you to explore negative thoughts and physical sensations without feeling triggered.
While EFT can be practiced on your own, or with YouTube videos, it’s best to learn it from a practitioner who knows your history and current challenges. There is also a benefit from not having to be both the driver and the passenger. It allows you to let go and be guided.
This is a gentle, easy-to-learn, yet powerful, technique. It’s worth a small investment of time and energy to learn it as it can support you through life’s challenges.
Copyright Nicole S Urdang